Most of my patients through a combination of medication and psychotherapy achieve remarkable benefits, however when the patient starts to feel significantly better, they often unconsciously revert to self-sabotaging behaviors, like “forgetting” their medication schedule.
People have an attachment to their comfort zone, no matter how “uncomfortable” that zone may actually be. We are all creatures of habit, and sometimes we subconsciously choose “familiarity” over health. What is familiar to a person emotionally, may actually be a state of personal hell.
Psychotherapy is necessary to get a patient to look at transgenerational patterns and recognize the difference between what is familiar and what is healthy. Without this awareness, a patient will inevitably slip back into what is familiar and away from their new found emotional health.
The will to make the necessary changes to move away from what is familiar and into sustained emotional health is profound. Everyone in the patient’s world is effected by these changes. The patient is likely to receive both support as well as, push back from their family, colleagues, and friends, in their effort to become emotionally healthy. The patient finds themself at a confusing crossroads. Simply put, does the patient maintain this new found psychological health and risk disturbing their personal relationships, or does she/he regress into old ways of being that are familiar to everyone?
My job is to support my patient through this confusion, helping them see that when they are healed, the entire system in which they live is positively impacted.